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Empathy: Sacrificing P-days |
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Oct 18, 2000:
Well - today was an interesting day. I'm learning a very important lesson. It was interesting because this morning we studied "Empathy" in the missionary guide. (That is - understanding others' feelings and relating to them) Well, as things would have it, I learned the lesson personally too. Y'see, I've noticed a big change in myself as I've become Senior Comp. - This desire has grown up in me to do my best to make the work go well. It's like when you own your own store: You put in all kinds of crazy hours just to make sure things go well. It's the same with my new responsibility - I feel like I've been given a franchise and I really want to see it prosper (not in a cold business-like way, but in a warm helping others way) So I actually WANT to make sacrifices so it can. But I always forget one important element: That there is also my companion. These sacrifices seem absurd to him.
For example: Today I set an appointment during our preparation day - for me it only made sense: Meet with our contact, or have a couple extra hours of relaxation... duh. But it really upset him - you could just see it (and feel it) -- CONTENTION -- Then this evening I did the same thing for our next preparation day. Again the same coldness. Once I started thinking about it (also in regards to empathy) I remembered when I had similar feelings about my Senior Comps. settings apptmnts on P-day. In that moment I could really understand where he was coming from. (Also from where my ex-comps. were coming from) hopefully this will help me resolve the concern tomorrow.
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